Friday, August 26, 2011

The 3 in 30 Challenge: Reflections on "Celebrate Your Beauty"

(1) I’m a What???...

This goal was about choosing what I would pack for Celebrate Your Beauty, the first annual Dressing Your Truth conference, and deciding on what to wear. 

Here are some of the pictures of me taken while there…

And that’s what I wore to the parade of beauty fashion show and the Friday night dance…

Though I had a blast at the conference, and ended up taking with me exactly what I most wanted to wear, an amazing thing happened while there that has eclipsed both of those experiences. I was draped while there in the colors for all four types and I discovered that I am a dressing your truth type 3, not a dressing your truth type 2!!!

Why I Got Draped at the Dressing Your Truth Conference

Though I dove head first into all things type 2, from the very beginning, I was pairing everything I wore with brown to make the colors more palatable to me. 

(Do you notice that all those pics have a sort of grey cast to them? That's what happens when you dress like a dressing your truth type 2 but you aren't one. I didn't know that and didn't see it, but I do now.)

I was determined to make it work but at the same time, was constantly drawn to the type 3 colors and outfits I saw.

And after a few months of participation in the discussions on the Dressing Your Truth forum, I began to realize that I was different than the other type 2 women. They were a kinder and gentler group than I and that disparity started to nag at me. I couldn’t relate to some of the things they said.

Why was that, I wondered. Was I a bad type 2? When was I going to feel the type 3 calm I kept hearing about and why hadn’t I felt it yet?

In general, I began to feel like something was wrong in my type 2 experience and I got tired of dressing like one. I was still trying to make it work, but I was losing steam.

Then I discovered color analysis and dove into it, hoping to discover some colors I could wear that I would like better. I did and they were much warmer, much to my delight. But that seemed to conflict with being a type 2. 

How did I resolve that conflict? Cheating and rebellion (very type 3 of me as I later found out). I decided to wear the warmer soft autumn colors I had been told I could wear when I was analyzed.

But then it became time to plan for the conference. I couldn’t wear those warm colors there, could I? Hence my difficulty deciding what to pack!

One of my lovely type 2 forum friends, Michelle, when I admitted my conflict, encouraged me to pack what I wanted to (tiger lily), even if it wasn’t “type 2.” And she suggested that if I were so unhappy w/ the type 2 colors and style, I might not be a type 2, something that had not occurred to me.

When I got to the conference with my renegade coral and tiger lily capsule wardrobe, she informed me that she had asked one of the Dressing Your Truth experts (Anne) to drape me and she did indeed do so that first night. 

Before that even happened, the type 2 women I met told me that just experiencing my energy confirmed for them that I was not a type 2, but they thought I was probably a dressing your truth type 1, instead.

We were all surprised to discover that I was a dressing your truth type 3!

Go back and look at all those pics, of Michelle and Anne and these women above. They are all type 2s. Now look at my pics and see if you can see what's different.

Yes, they are Caucasian and I am African-Anerican but beyond that, see how sweet and kind they look? It's all over them! But now, look at my pics. I know I am not that sweet :).

So Why Didn’t I Know I Was a Dressing Your Truth Type 3?...

Or, in other words, what the heck’s the matter with me? 

Well, the first thing you should know is that I am a secondary type 2, and many of us live in our secondaries, so we recognize those characteristics and descriptions more when we hear them. As children, many of us are rejected for being ourselves. Sounds too simple, maybe, but it’s true!

We then may make an unconscious decision to be whatever will meet with approval and acceptance, and if we do that long enough, we come to believe that that’s who we are. Our first try is often our secondary nature, and if that works, we live there.

I also think that being a secondary type 2 softens your features, which may make it difficult to see the angularity and asymmetry characteristic of type 3s. Being overweight probably did that as well.

Now that I know I am a type 3, the evidence that I am, in terms of character and personality traits, has been flooding my mind for days.

Dressing Your Truth Type 3: Quintessentially Me

Here’s a video I watched for the first time a few nights ago that defines me so well it makes me wish I had seen it much sooner.

This is quintessential, Jeanine in her natural habitat, a day in the life! Had I seen this video when I was just beginning to question my type, would I have recognized it as the defining characteristic that it is? I don’t know. 

When I told my son about it and started that last “if” question, he cut me off before I could finish (in typical excited type 1 style) and said, “you would have thought you were a 2/3 even sooner!” The wisdom of children!

One word used to describe type 3s is “sure” and I tell you, I was SURE I was a type 2!

Anyway, I’m not sure it makes much sense to play Monday morning quarterback, but I think my doing so is a natural part of my grief in realizing I have lost a year to trying very hard to be a type 2. The line from the Barry Manilow song about all the wasted time has been playing on the radio in my head for days.

(2) Dressing Your Truth Type 3 Journey Begins: Creating a Type 3 Fall Capsule Wardrobe

So now the journey begins again! And this blog will shift a bit as I begin to dress my truth as a type 3. Creating my fall capsule wardrobe will look very different than it would have if I were still thinking I was a type 2. As always, I will share my experiences with you.

Join us for the Twenty Twenty September fall capsule wardrobe remix challenge!

(3) Preparing for Homeschooling

Well, I am just beginning to get back to that as I have spent most of the week on vacation. I think I will finish most of the planning by the end of this month, but may still have a bit to do as next month begins. So I may add it on to next month’s goal list.

Do you know your goals for next month yet?


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Aurie{OurGoodLife} said...

Wow!! Are you encouraged that you really are a different type, now that you know it? For me, that would be SO freeing!!

Glad that you had a wonderful time at the conference :)

Jeanine Byers Hoag said...

Hi Aurie! YES, it is freeing!! Boy, and what a relief, too, because on the inside, it just wasn't working. It's sort of a gradual thing but when you realize fully that it's not working, it feels like a straitjacket.

Shiree said...

So glad you figured out your type! I have read a lot of your forum posts and such and though we haven't met I am cheering for you! Have a GREAT time in your T3 journey. As my T3 son says, "go big or go home!" :)

Jeanine Byers Hoag said...

Hi Shiree! Thanks so much!! I'm glad, too, and I appreciate your cheering for me. Tell your son I said, "amen to that!" :)

Meredith said...

Wow... what a whirlwind!
Hopefully this will end some of the internal conflict! :)

Jeanine Byers Hoag said...

Hi Meredith! You're right, it has been. And yes, it has ended the internal conflict.

islandgirl said...

What an awesome story! You know my sister found out too at the conference that she was not a T2 but, a T4. Luckily, she had not been dressing it for that long. I can't wait to see your new T3 stuff and see the change in you, you're going to love it!

Judy Haughton-James said...

Hello Jeanine,
greetings from Jamaica. This post is very interesting. I am happy to become a Follower of your Blog. I learnt about it from the Weekend Blog Hop. By the way, my identical twin sister's name was also Janine. There is only a slight difference in the spelling. Take care.

Jeanine Byers Hoag said...

Hi IslandGirl! Thanks! Wow!! I'm so glad that happened for your sister. Was she one of the three of us who was draped by Anne or did it happen another way?

I'm glad she hadn't been dressing as a type 2 for very long!

I think I am going to love it, too!

Jeanine Byers Hoag said...

Hi Judy! Thanks for hopping over. I look forward to checking out your blog, too.

You know, as I get older, I am meeting or finding out about more and more women also named Jeanine (though often they spell it differently). When I was younger, there were hardly any!

Steve said...

Wow! You are right, Jeanine! This is very applicable to my post. I SO enjoyed reading about your experience and learning more about you and your personality...

Even before I saw the post, I LOVED the pics of you in the corals and "brighter" colors. It brings out your personality much more authentically.

I loved the blues and browns on you, but it seemed you were "hiding" (even if it was subconsciously...or secondarily, as you discovered).

SO happy that you have found your true "type" and I look forward to what you'll share with the world. You look so beautiful in those pictures from the conference. I loved seeing them. Thanks for sharing.

Jessica @FoundtheMarbles said...

This is so fascinating because I had no idea there were so many types. It must be so freeing to have found yours!

Jeanine Byers Hoag said...

Hi Steve! Thank you so much!! I have loved people telling me that the warmer colors seem more "me," because I feel the same way.

And you're right, I was hiding. I didn't know it, but I was!

Jeanine Byers Hoag said...

Hi Jessica! It really is freeing. It's like not quite knowing you were captive but having it sort of hit you all at once as you are set free.

Groovy Baby Blog said...

Great blog , following you now!

Kristy said...

Hi, I'm a new follower from the Weekend Blog Hop. Please follow my blog.

Jeanine Byers Hoag said...

Hi Tati! Thanks, I appreciate your following me :).

Jeanine Byers Hoag said...

Hi Kristy! Thanks for stopping by and deciding to follow me.

Sherrie Koretke said...

Hi Jeanine,
Thank you for sharing your journey with us. It's an honest reflection of what Dressing Your Truth is all about. Many people are living the wrong type. You learning about your true self is part of the DYT journey.

I love the way you have incorporated the T3 colors with your T2 flowing secondary which I suspect is pretty strong. What a great example you will be for people who may be more blended in their types. You look beautiful in your T3 colors!

Jeanine Byers Hoag said...

Hi Sherrie! Thanks so much! And I so appreciate your encouragement.

Yes, I think I am a more blended type and I do have a VERY strong secondary T2, so there may be more flow in the bottom half of my outfits.

And you're right, many people are living the wrong type. It's a journey!

Anonymous said...

I believe that unfortunately, like many colour systems, the Dressing your Truth system is flawed. Not everyone who is soft and subtle has cool colouring!!! There are no natural laws that decree that all warm colours are naturally fierce and assertive! Think of a monarch butterfly (black and orange)! The system needs to be expanded or changed, it is trying to be too much-- a 4 "season" colour system as well as a personality system.

Jeanine Byers Hoag said...

Hi Anonymous! Thanks for sharing your opinion. While I doubt that there is any perfect system, I don't think you have the full view of Dressing Your Truth, either, from that post.

No one at DYT would say that "all warm colours are naturally fierce and assertive!"

And I think they would be the last to call themselves a color system, because they are so much more. They don't address or include the seasons at all, so you may have misunderstood?

But they definitely are not for everyone. No system is or should try to be. And I appreciate your sharing your thoughts!

Anonymous said...

Hi, just to clarify for you what I meant...It's true they don't call themselves a colour system, but they ARE one because they link a colour group to a type--ie. type 1's are the "spring" colours, type 2's are summer, type 3's are fall, type 4's are winter colours. When you bring personality into the fold, things get complicated, because you can have pushy/bold people (ie type 3's) who have soft cool colouring (type 2)! It sounds like you might be trying to force yourself into a type, that's all. Thanks!

Rona said...

Dressing your truth doesn't say that they follow the seasonal colour groupings, but that's what they're doing, they're just calling it "energy types" and tying personality into the types as well.

Jeanine Byers Hoag said...

Hi Anonymous! I appreciate your concern for me, but I have never felt better than I do as a T3, so I don't feel like I am pushing myself in any way. And this post was written at the beginning of my awareness that I am a T3. I have had SO much confirmation since then, so I know it is "home" for me.

I hear what you're saying about how some personalities might not fit as they should. But interestingly enough, there are systems that do tie the seasons to personality constructs and they fall along the same lines as the DYT guidelines.

But it sounds like it's a system that doesn't gel well with you and that's okay. Is there a system you like better?

Jeanine Byers Hoag said...

Hi Rona! What an interesting discussion about Dressing Your Truth!! Which system do you use? Or prefer? I agree that the seasons and types do match up but I know that the systems that inspired DYT were not just based on the 4 seasons.

However, there is a wealth of information out there and I think any time a new system is created, it has probably been influences, at least to some degree, by what has come before, and I think that's good. No need to reinvent the wheel!

free standing closet said...

Wow... what a whirlwind!
Hopefully this will end some of the internal conflict! :)

Jeanine Byers Hoag said...

It definitely did, free standing closet!

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